Posted by Most driven professionals desire to be a top-performing employee in the workplace. There is a multitude of ways to mould oneself into a top performer be it their outlook or working style. But there is only one thing that could change the entire landscape of an employee – complaining. Each turn when you made a complaint, you are practically enforcing an internal belief that you are not in control of your work and success.
Complaining also solidifies a self-limiting mindset which places you in a disadvantage at the workplace. There is also the possibility of diminishing an individual’s problem-solving ability due to compulsive complaining. Here are a few essential tips to help you become a top-performing employee while stopping your habit to complain in its tracks.
1. Be more gratuitous
The moment you realise that you have the urge to complain, pause for a moment and take a deep breath. Consider why you should be grateful in the current situation. Refocus your energy on what is working well for you and what is the potential outcome in this situation. This approach allows you to readjust your mindset to be more gratuitous instead of complaining.
2.Focus on things that you can make a difference
There are things that we can make a difference at work and there are those that are out of your playing field. If you have the knowledge and experience to make a difference, you won’t end up complaining about matters that you have no control over. Putting yourself in a position where you are unfamiliar with can lead to disempowerment and lack of creative solutions. Ultimately, you are leading yourself into a frustrating situation without a proper solution to fix the issue.
3.Complaining to your trusted partners
If you have the urge to complain, divert it to a trusted group of people around you, be it from your personal or professional life. Make certain that your trusted partners will call you out for complaining and push you back to take things more positively.
4.Exclude yourself from others who tend to complain at work
Observe and acknowledge individuals who tend to complain. Sticking around with people who frequently complain can negatively affect you. Instead of taking in their complaints, you can urge them to take things in a positive light instead.
5.Spend less time in gossip about people
Wasting your time on gossiping about other people is equivalent to a loss of productivity at work. Gossiping is a part of complaining which can lead to a path of distrust or something worse depending on the subject. It’s just not possible to cut out all conversation from other people, the least you can do is make your discussions more conscious, disciplined and measured.
6. Aligning your words to be more empowering
At times we still can find ourselves without even realising that we are complaining. It mainly boils down to how you express yourself during a conversation. Here are some examples of how we unintentionally complain and how to express it in a more positive note:
Scenario A
Positive tone:
“I HAVE more pressing matters to sort out.”
Negative tone:
“I am busy now, please don’t bother me.”
Scenario B
Positive tone:
“I am prepared to take up this new project.”
Negative tone:
“Why must it be me who lead this project?”
Scenario C
Positive tone:
“Any assistance will be deeply appreciated.”
Negative tone:
“Where is my support when I need it now?”
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